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Creating memories, not things - day 9 of happiness month

Submitted by Mrs Green on Tuesday, 9 August 2011 Loading Add to favourites  25 Comments

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Welcome to the August Carnival of Natural Parenting: Creating With Kids

This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Carnival of Natural Parenting hosted by Hobo Mama and Code Name: Mama. This month our participants have shared how they make messes and masterpieces with children. Please read to the end to find a list of links to the other carnival participants.

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I’m using this post for day 9 of happiness month - you’ll see why when you read through!

Little Miss Green is now ten and values her independence.

She’s at a stage where she prefers to do her own thing, safe in the knowledge that I’m nearby to celebrate, commiserate, offer guidance and provide endless food and clean laundry.
Opportunities for ‘creating together’ are infrequent because she has chosen to go to school and at the weekend she likes downtime in order to recharge her batteries and filter the week’s activities. Yet our relationship ebbs, flows, yields and creates itself as we evolve through life together. It is a moving meditation: like water it flows, like the earth it is nurturing, like fire it transforms and like the air I breathe it keeps me alive.

I miss our sacred time together of modelling with beeswax, kneading bread or planting potatoes in the soil while she sits close beside me. But intertwined in the rich tapestry of our family dynamic are the joyful moments where a small pair of hands can resist the urge no longer and delve into the bread dough along with mine. For a few minutes our four hands become one soul, bound by love. At other times these same small hands reach lovingly into the soil alongside mine, digging for potatoes, pulling up carrots or nibbling herbs and the look of pure joy on her face melts my heart. There are moments when a request to sit down together to draw or paint break me joyfully away from the routine of housework. Or she sits like a cat, curled up in my lap demanding a story - not from a book but from my imagination: stories that heal, reassure, remind us of the wonder of life or take us on adventures to OtherWorlds.

It is during these times that we ‘create together’. It isn’t about the painting, the papier-mâchée or the tray of rustic cookies anymore; the end result doesn’t matter. It’s about creating memories.

It’s about creating and maintaining our relationship as it evolves. It’s about creating a new dynamic between us as my daughter gradually dances away from me and flies solo into the world.

The drawings will fade in time, the papier-mâché will disintegrate and the cookies will get eaten, but the creation of our memories, of our love for one another and the times spent ‘being’ when she knows I’m there no matter what will never die, even when we do.

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