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Teaching forgiveness

Submitted by on Tuesday, 11 January 2011 Loading Add to favourites  31 Comments

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Welcome to the January Carnival of Natural Parenting: Learning from children

This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Carnival of Natural Parenting hosted by Hobo Mama and Code Name: Mama. This month our participants have shared the many lessons their children have taught them. Please read to the end to find a list of links to the other carnival participants.

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This month we’ve been asked what our children have taught us over our parenting years.

I remember when Little Miss Green was a growing bump in my tummy how we would ‘talk’ in the evenings. I made a promise to learn from her as well as guide her through life as best I could.

Over the years, the most amazing gift my daughter has taught me is not that the aluminium plate Mr green uses in his LED light bulbs is a heat sink (I thought it was to reflect the light – go figure!), or how to play Angry Birds, but something that reaches me much more deeply.

I have a bit of a confession.

I’ve always found forgiving a challenge. I guess I’ve never understood it. I’ve felt it means you are saying that whatever happened was ok, when sometimes it just isn’t…

And I’ve been a terrible mother at times; one who needs some serious forgiving.

I’ve yelled – *really* loud
I’ve been dismissive
There have been times when I’d rather be doing something else than paying full attention to my daughter’s questions
I’ve sighed in “that way” which must feel really condescending
I’ve reacted rather than responded
And I’m sure there have been times when my daughter has felt like a complete inconvenience due to my behaviour.

But throughout it all, my daughter has taught me something very powerful; something that reaches my heart, touches my soul and leaves me wondering if we’ve reversed the parent / child role.

What she has taught me is unconditional love and forgiveness.

She has responded to my anger with love and forgiveness.
She has responded to my tiredness with love and forgiveness.
She has responded to my ‘can’t be arsedness’ with love and forgiveness.
She has responded to my moods with love and forgiveness.

She has appeared by my side like an angel when I’ve felt unsure of my path through the parenting maze. She tells me I’m the best mum in the world and every single night, before we go to sleep she demands a hug along with some ‘I love you’s’.

She tells me that love and hugs are the best things in the world.

And I have to agree.

She understands the true meaning of forgiveness and this is the greatest gift she has not only taught me, but offered to me.

She has helped me understand that forgiveness is recognising the perpetrator is a flawed human being; one who is fully deserving of compassion, love and kindness despite the harm they have done…

Through her forgiveness, I’m finally learning to forgive and let go myself.

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Carnival of Natural Parenting -- Hobo Mama and Code Name: MamaVisit Hobo Mama and Code Name: Mama to find out how you can participate in the next Carnival of Natural Parenting!

Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants:

(This list will be live and updated by afternoon January 11 with all the carnival links.)

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