The way to my heart – day 4 of Happiness Month

clean-kitchen-sinkI’m not a high maintenance woman. Give me cuddles, be respectful, listen to me and I’m pretty much sorted.

Oh, but there is one more thing I need…

According to Gary Chapman’s “5 love languages” I not only need physical touch but I need ‘Acts of Service’. Put simply, if you want to impress me, don’t be lazy, don’t break your commitments and help ease the burden of my responsibilities by doing something!

Well Mr Green knows me too well and this morning I came down to a clean kitchen sink. That’s really something beacuse our kitchen sink is the bane of my life. It’s old, ‘white’ (haha!) plastic and is scratched (well actually, I think it’s melted from when I wasn’t thinking and put a frying pan in there) – so anything and everything stains it. When we eat curry we end up with an orange sink. By the time the pots and pans from Sunday Lunch have been washed there is a greasy layer adhered to the turmeric. After cleaning out the coffee pot it’s downhill to a layer of black scum and it’s not a pretty sight.

But what IS a pretty sight is finding my lovely man has taken it upon himself to clean it out for me without being asked.[amazon-product align=”right” small=”1″]0802473156[/amazon-product]

It’s such a simple act that brings me happiness. It’s Mr Green’s way of saying “I care”. It’s an expression of his love and it shows he understands what I need. I’m far more impressed with a cleaned sink than a material gift. He isn’t in the slightest bit interested in what I do for him because ‘Acts of service’ isn’t his primary language, so for him to step into that role for me and to do a skanky job that he doesn’t give a damn about shows his level of commitment to me and our relationship.

If you feel you talk a different language to your partner, kids or friends, check out “The five love languages” – it has alot of Christian influence, but the message of the book and the opportunity to learn about yourselves and improve your relationship is outstanding. You can even take an online quiz to get a basic understanding of what makes you feel loved.

What about you – what has made you happy today? Share your happiness with friends, tweet it with #happinesshappens when … or blog it!


  1. Gaby @ Tmuffin on August 4, 2011 at 11:06 am

    A plastic sink, huh? That would be the bane of my existence too. I find the kitchen sink to be a never-ending stream of mess. (Mostly dishes surrounding it all the time.) The one time I tried to shine my sink and keep it clean a-la Fly Lady, it was all I did all day. I gave up.

  2. Mrs Green on August 15, 2011 at 6:17 am

    @Gaby @ Tmuffin: Hahahaha, Oh, that old nut Flylady. Parts of it work for me, the other parts make me want to retire to bed for a week just thinking about it. You’ll be pleased to hear that 2 weeks on the sink is still clean 😉